LOVE is the panacea that keeps us living, keeps doors open in the most challenging times. It can cure mysterious maladies of the heart and body. Spread in abundance, its light keeps life rejoicing its existence. Its absence can cause hearts to bleed to a slow or a sudden death. When the Creator gave emotions to human beings, love was made the omnipotent king. Hence, love rules over our emotions in unpredictable ways. Love can turn saints into beasts or it can hold lights to lost souls. It makes or mars life. And at times, love offers just the right amount of elixir to life, it makes one fit into the comfort zones.
LOVE is the panacea that keeps us living. It opens the most unexpected doors in life. It can cure mysterious maladies of the heart and at times it can throw us into dark pits. The lights of love keep life rejoicing our blessings and help us to sail the stormy seas. Love gives us the best dances around life; be it the waltz, salsa or contra, love beats all other music. It holds life with ambivalence to its greatest discoveries of life.
Such a powerful force does not come without challenges. Love can kill and it can heal. People kill for the sake of love. Shakespeare did not write his epic works of Othello and Romeo and Juliet without the light of love on his pen. In real life King Edward III of England gave up his throne to marry the twice-divorced American socialite Wallis Simpson in 1936. Romance is not contained in any time or boundary. While romance of Antony and Cleopatra continues to amaze us, beautiful Princess Diana lost to Prince Charles’s love for Camilla Parker Bowles. Mother Teresa’s love of the poor taught us lessons of how we can give our life to the cause of humanity. Fiction or non-fiction, literature is glued to real life like a spider’s web through stories of love. Romance or worldly love, when the Creator gave emotions to human beings, love must have been crowned the eternal queen. Love can turn saints into beasts or turn murderers to angles. And at times, love offers just the right amount of elixir to life to fit into the comfort zones and fill life with contentedness.
Love throws light into nooks and corners of life. Prehistoric man began to draw pictures on the walls of caves to express their love of life. As language found its way as a mean to express our feelings and emotions, love was the corner stone on which man began to write the story of mankind. Our march from the uncivilized world to the civilization of today is for one reason; we adore life and want to experience it to glorious heights. Although love finds it seeds in our hearts, love is a gift from the heaven. The mysteries of its presence and absence baffle us. We grope for ways to find it in its epic form. As we seek its lights, love comes to us with its magnanimous ways. Love lies in the heart of the beholder and spreads light to infinite heights. It spreads its branches and roots, holds flowers and fruits when one nurtures it. If love is reciprocal, joy and happiness soars to unimaginable heights. And when love is lost or not shared, the soul becomes barren, the flowers and leaves dry and return to the roots.
The Creator creates life and the endlessness of His creations is like an affirmation of His love for creating. The whole universe speaks of love through vast infinity. The countless colors on land, sea and beyond tells us that He loves variations. The deviations of life is countless. From the blue whale to zooplankton, the sun, moon and the smallest stars in the milky –way, from the giant sequoia to the dwarf willow, humans with their endless looks and traits; we are baffled by the Creators love of alternatives. We try to track the variants through science but often fail against the unimaginable works of God. But the sign of love is everywhere, He loves to create. We are born with love of life in our hearts and we leave the world with strings of love attached to our memories. Hate is opposite to love, but LOVE in its true form overcomes all hatred. Love brings us joy and sorrow. As humans we want love to come to us through happiness. It is through love that we measure life, a gift that is given to us with its destined hours.
Universal love finds delicate wings in romantic love. Romance carries its glory in human lives. Life finds new definitions as one heart touches another with the sweetness of love and desire. Gone are the days when spring of life and romance were supposed to be together. People fall in love at all ages. Octogenarians find love after they had given up all hopes of ever finding that ‘special one’ of their life. Toddlers fall in love with the holding of hands, they find love without knowing how cupid is connecting them for the years to come. In the modern age, teenagers or the old, people are seekers of love. All are impatient like the spring and are eager to bloom like the first crocuses. We live at an age when freedom of expressions reign supreme and we do not hold back to what we feel. With the aid of science and technology the world is on our fingertips. Internet, text messages, e-mails and telephones give people unlimited opportunities of finding the soul mates even on the other side of the world. Ages back people used to see a person first and then fall in love. These days the minds and hearts find invisible links as Cupid finds its ways through modern technology to send its arrow. People fall in love on the Internet and then take the longest journey of their life across oceans to see the beloved in person. “Love at first sight” is true for some but for many love strikes its first chord in the empty space.
Romantic love has this incredible power of conquering hearts repeatedly. These days the adage “the one and only love of life” holds lesser credence. People seem to fall out of love just as easily as they dip into this incredible emotional experience. Just as “I love you” has the world bathing in a new light, the utterance of “I am having an affair, I have found a new love” can bury another heart in the bottomless dark pit. And when love decides to close the doors it leaves an invisible knife repeatedly gnawing the heart, a slow poisoning that kills a soul. With the arrival of love all the flowers of spring seem to bloom at once. When love coils back, cold dismal winter chills the heart. Love comes with its ecstasy and agony hidden among the other mysteries of life.
The saying, “Love conquers all” seems to pique new questions. If love did conquer all then why did Tony, a young man at the tender age of 22, commit suicide because his fiancé deserted him? What went wrong between a mother and a daughter that had the daughter leave home and start living on the streets? Why was the refusal of love requests sent to an unwilling village girl result with throwing of acid on her? Did not agony fill the heart of fifty-year old Rosa when her husband, a balding man at the age of fifty-five, filed for divorce because he had another younger woman in his life? She wonders why love did not conquer the marital strife.
What about the bonds of love between children and parents, between siblings, friends and relatives? Why does it hurt the deepest when the child a mother has held in her womb one day says, “I hate you Mom, why do you want to control my life?” or what about the day when a father kicks out his fourteen-year old son saying, “ I did not become a father to raise a disobedient brat like you!” Life touched these people with its perplexities and love became a twisted test of life. Love seemed to have lost its way and the wounded hearts wondered what went wrong when love was there to put things back together. Life has many unanswered questions and when love goes topsy-turvy one ends up with endless Whys.
Love binds us to a mysterious, infinite hunger in the soul. It begs for time to the Creator who creates each living thing with its own lifespan. Life holds us helpless with the love of this world and our desires to be happy. We, the mortals know that death waits us somewhere around a corner of our journey between life and death. Yet our love of life does not diminish no matter how sick or poor a person is. Love of life keeps us going, it has us climbing mountains, sailing treacherous seas and flying without wings. At the moment of death love grips the heart with the desire of living with its strongest force. A dying man will cling to the last ray of hope to go on living. Love is cruel when it keeps its grip on the heart, the emotions bubble, even knowing well that death, when it comes is inevitable. Love would be kinder to the dying if it loosened its grip on the heart for the hunger of life. Maybe that could make it easier to accept the end, to accept the decision of the Creator, to find peace as the soul leaves the body.
Love, pregnant with its multitudes of meanings for life on Earth makes us cherish the birds, trees, flowers, seas and sky. At the same time keeps whispering “You have to leave it all one day.” Emotions come to the human beings with so many faces. Perhaps the Creator added love to our emotions as the biggest challenge to life, daring us to earn it in this world from each life that crosses our paths. The bigger challenge is that we know the Creator loves that man who is loved by his fellow being. Love of life comes with great responsibilities and to fulfill them we have to pledge ourselves to the best of our beings. And, what other life can be worthier than to be loved by all, birds, beasts and man? Love is be there in life, like the sky overhead or like the smallest particle in the nook of your house, and it will make a nests in our hearts and souls. Love has its own riddle on each life, it plays games of joy and sorrow like the games of fate, so unpredictable. Great stories of humanity, romance, and sacrifice come from this God given emotion. Love of power and freedom makes and remakes history. Love of beauty makes the poets write their poems, the musicians compose their songs and the artists and writers create their maser pieces for the love of the creativeness that feeds their intellectual beings.
Love, with its agony and ecstasy comes to us all in its own form and makes us laugh or cry. When love ceases to exist in a heart the human in us also dies a cruel death. We may go on living but life becomes unbearable, we suffocate even when the wind is blowing with its strongest force. Yet, we continue to celebrate love and want its lights knowing well that there is darkness under the flame of the candle. Love continues its riddles in its own ways from life to death for each individual, tells its own story for each and every one of us.
( The names used in this essay are not the real names of persons.)